Dean and I have been going on weekly date nights for the last year or so, and after 13 years of sporatic dates when we could find a baby sitter, this time together has been a staple that we both look forward to each week. If you’re a parent and in a season of life where you can once again date your spouse regularly, I’d highly recommend it. And if you’re not there yet, let me encourage you to prioritize a weekly date night at home!
When it comes to dates, we usually go out to eat or drive the backroads of our small county, catching up with one another after a busy week. While it can be easy to continue with small talk from the week, we connect more when we dive into meaningful conversations. If you’re looking for some ideas to help you connect with your special person on a deeper level, here are 8 date night conversation starters to try.
8 Date Night Conversation Starters for Couples
Share a favorite memory: It can be hard to see the forest for all the trees, as they say, especially while you’re in the thick of raising kids, building businesses, and all the things that go along with adulting, so take some time to look back and share a favorite memory from your time together and then ask your spouse about their favorite memory?
Talk about your dreams and goals: Sometimes we tend to focus on simply making it through the busy days, but it can be helpful to discuss your hopes and aspirations for the future, both individually and as a couple. We are always changing and so do our dreams and goals. Keeping your significant other in the loop can be a great way to help them feel connected to you.
Play a game: Bring a deck of cards or a board game to your date night (perfect for a coffee shop date!) and enjoy some friendly competition while you chat. This is a great way to connect in a laid back, fun way. Remember, conversations don’t have to be deep for connection to happen.
Discuss your favorite books, podcasts, movies, or TV shows: Sharing what you’re reading, watching, or listening to can tell you a lot about your partner and give each of you insight into the other’s current interests, thoughts, and opinions.
Take a trip down memory lane: One of my favorite things to do is pull out old scrapbooks and photo albums and look through them with Dean. It leads to remenicing about “the good ole’ days,” feeling grateful for where we’ve been and how far we’ve come, and reliving past experiences together again.
Discuss your love languages: Did you know we each have a primary way we receive and feel loved? It can be helpful to share times when your spouse has made your feel special or loved and ask them to do the same. Then you both can think of ways you can continue to show your affection to one another in the future that continues to line up with your love languages.
Share a new story: Chances are you have a story to tell your significant other that you haven’t shared with them yet. Take some time to think about something you’ve yet to tell them, and then start your story with, “I just thought of something that I’ve never shared with you before,” and go into your story. Stories are a great way to connect, and chances are, they’ll think of something they’ve never shared with you as well.
Share your appreciation to them: It can be easy to get caught up in all the responsibilities of life, and one way to connect deeply with your partner is to share something they did that you appreciated. Instead of just saying “thanks for xyz,” expand on why you are grateful for them and how much it meant to you.
Okay, friends… I hope this encourages you to prioritize dating your spouse this week and to use one of these date night conversations starters to connect with them in a more meaningful way. Remember, the key to a successful date night is to have fun and enjoy each other’s company and these date night conversation starters are a great jumping-off point for deeper conversations and connection with your spouse.
So tell me, which of these date night conversation starters will you try next? Let me know in the comments below!
